When you start to have an interest in changing your life to create positive change, there are some key things that you will just have to stop doing because all of these things are only bringing you down and are preventing you from advancing in a more productive and fulfilling life.
One thing I found out in my own experience is that you can be your biggest motivator or biggest obstacle. You can’t always be relying on others to start improving all areas of your life, this is something you will have to take responsibility at some point, because only you know what you have experienced, where you are, and where you want to be.
The following are things you will want to quit doing, all these things that are only holding you back must be dropped if you really want to make progress in creating a better life.
1. Drop the negative people around you
We all have negative people around us, and it’s easy for me to say just drop them, but you have to find a way.
Negative people are energy suckers, they suck the life out of you until you get down to their way of thinking. I am sure you can think of a few people just now who are like this. If you’ve ever seen Harry Potter you’ll know what a Dementor is, that’s what negative people are, Dementors in your life.
It can be tough if you work closely with someone who is like this, or have family members who are like this. Drop them gradually or stay out of their way as much as possible.
Another thing you can do is counteract all their negatives with positives, oh! they don’t like that, and the more you do it the more they will avoid you.
2. Drop caring about the mistakes you have made
Bit of a cliche this one: your mistakes in life serve as a reminder of what not to do in the future, simple as that.
Your mind set about mistakes is what makes all the difference here, you can be in two camps on mistakes:
Camp one: woe is me, I made a mistake I am such a loser, I totally embarrassed myself, I’ll never be able to show my face in public again.
Camp two: I made a mistake, sure as hell won’t be doing that again, but at least I learned what not to do.
Nobody, but nobody, has ever succeeded in life without failing a few times, so making mistakes is inevitable if you want to live a more successful and happier life.
3. Drop the past
Let me ask you a question about your past…
Can you go back and change it?
So why dwell on things that have happened in the past when there is absolutely nothing you can do to change it, you can make amends for the past, you can say you’re sorry about something you’ve done in the past but the fact remains the past has happened and it can’t be changed.
The more you think about the past, the more your mind lives there, and it can be a hard slog getting back to living in the here and now, and looking forward to the future.
4. Drop feeling sorry for yourself
Sometimes it’s great just to sit on the ‘poor me’ train and just let it roll into ‘Woe is me’ station, but the longer you are on that train the more difficult it is to get off it.
Give yourself a shake, you’ve only got a few years to make a difference in your life, and those around you, so jump off the ‘poor me’ train and head for ‘happyville’ central.
Sounds too easy doesn’t it, that’s because it is easy: buying a ticket for the ‘poor me’ train is a choice!
5. Quit Making Up Excuses
Remember that the biggest obstacle from going forward in life is YOU! Making excuses and trying to talk yourself out of doing something that has the potential to change your life for the better is only destined to halt all your progress.
But that’s not the worst part, the worst part is that as you continue to be your own roadblock and continue to make excuses, you will essentially begin to “program yourself” with this type of mentality.
This is one of the biggest secrets, that we run on “programs” throughout our life, so start creating a better program, one that is productive, one that is self-motivating, encouraging and optimistic.
Start motivating yourself, talk yourself on looking at the positive end goal of what you want to achieve, continue to do this and you will be able to create this positive program.