One very common cause of unhappiness and low self-esteem is the tendency to always reflect on bad experiences from the past.
In many cases people either feel sorry for themselves or lament ever being a part of those events. Yet, it is much more progressive to look at the past as a lesson and not as a regret.
Admittedly, it is not an easy thing to do, especially when the events were painful, terribly embarrassing or resulted in permanent injuries that live on as a reminder.
But at some point, reality has to be faced and it demands that the past is accepted as it is.
That is because it simply can never be changed to suit anyone’s wishes. What happened, no matter how bad it could have been, remains a permanent part of one’s history; without exception. But on the flip side, it can easily be used to shape a brighter future.
However, it is naïve to try to forget and bury the past. Rather, it is important to embrace it and accept it as an important part of life history which can help avoid similar events. It is from past events that people have always drawn invaluable lessons.