Think of the time when something didn’t work out in your life the way you wanted. How did you feel? Did you do all in your power to regain control, or accept the situation as it is? Many people are so consumed with things that they have no control over (e.g. past mistakes, divorce, loss of a parent, retrenchment etc.) that they fail to realize what’s most important – enjoying life in the present moment.
Besides leaving you frustrated, angry and powerless, focusing on the uncontrollable prevents you from having peace of mind and experiencing the beauty in the present moment. For this reason, you need accept that things will not always go as you want, and even if they do, it can all be taken away in an instant.
So, make a conscious decision today to let go of what you cannot control however difficult or painful it is. Here are 5 simple tips to help you do so.
Focus On the Positive Things In Your Life
When you don’t feel in control of what’s happening in your life, it’s easy to focus on how horrible things are. You’ll feel powerless and lose perspective on your abilities. Because you’re letting the situation consume your thoughts, you’ll find it difficult to look beyond the immediate problem.
However, you can choose to focus on what’s right in your life irrespective of what you’re going through. For instance, when you realize that you’re pregnant after being dumped by your boyfriend, accept that the relationship is over and be happy that you’ll be a mother soon. After all, not all women are able to bear children, so count your blessings.
Focusing on the positive will help you experience less stress, and enable you to think more clearly on how to resolve the problem more effectively.