Overcoming The Pain Of Grief

Grief is our natural response to loss. It is the emotional suffering we feel when we lose someone or something we love or care about deeply. Many people associate grief with the loss of a loved one.

However, it is important to note that any loss can cause grief, for instance, relationship breakup or divorce, job loss, death of a beloved pet, miscarriage, loss of financial stability and retirement among others. The more significant your loss is, the more intense your grief will be.

We all cope with grief differently. Some people turn to drugs or overwork themselves to numb the painful emotions they feel, while others find strength in talking about their feelings with trusted loved ones. Regardless of the loss you are going through currently, you can rise above it and emerge stronger and better. Here are some healthy tips to help you overcome the pain of grief:

Be Patient With Yourself

There is no fixed time frame for grieving. Some people take a few months to heal, while others take up to several years to do so. It is therefore imperative that you be very patient with yourself as you grieve. Give yourself as much time as you need to accept what happened, and allow the healing process to unfold gradually and naturally.

It is normal to cry, or feel sad, depressed and alone whenever you are overwhelmed by the grief. However, you can choose to pick up the pieces and rebuild your life You have the strength to survive and overcome whatever you are going through now; just believe in yourself.

Don’ Get Stuck In The Negative Experience

It is very easy to get stuck in all the negative emotions and experience when you are grieving. However, you can choose not to get stuck in all the bitterness and anger. Do everything you can to help you move forward. This can vary from going for counseling, taking a new hobby, or talking to a doctor on the best treatment options for you (i.e. taking antidepressants). Find what works best for you and focus on getting better.

Learn To Accept Your New Normal

To most of us, it is not easy to come to terms with the new normal when we experience significant losses or life changes. But however hard it is, we must take a stand on how we are going to deal with the loss. Refusing to accept what you cannot change will only make you more miserable and prevent you from moving on with your life. So, it’s better to consciously choose to let go of your painful past that you can’t bring back and learn to accept the reality.