Growing up, the adults in our lives taught us to never be selfish. It was important, they told us, to do for others before we do for ourselves.
The act of selfishness was frowned upon. It is a shameful word that keeps us all from doing what is necessary.
The problem with being told to do for others before we do for ourselves is no one clarified what that meant.
No one taught us how to discern between doing what is best for you and doing what is best for others.
When you take an airplane flight, the stewardess explains the emergency procedures by directing the passengers to, “Place the mask on your face before you place it on the face of a child or the sick.”