One of the hardest things to do in our love life is realize you are in an unhealthy love relationship. Not only is it hard to first admit that you may be doing more harm than good but it takes time to realize that you need to start caring for yourself a bit more. It is not so much that you no longer care about the other person, but how much damage it is causing to you on a personal and emotional level. It can be extremely draining.
But at some point you’ll need to realize how you want the rest of your life to look, what are you missing out on and is it healthy or not? What is the reason that keeps you in such relationship? Sometimes it’s not about the other person, and it’s not even about being selfish either, it’s about having a little self-love. There comes a time when you need to allow other people to find their own way, especially when you know it is causing a great deal of unhappiness in your life.
Here are some of the top clues that tell you that you may be in an unhealthy relationship, which of these sound familiar?
1. Everything you do seems wrong.
No matter what you do, it doesn’t feel right, and the blame always falls on you. Your self-esteem has been knocked so low that you’ve started to believe every negative thing your partner says about you. You may also feel like everything you say and do is wrong. It’s always about them and what they want.
2. You can’t be yourself.
You find it hard to speak your mind or express your true self around your partner. You have to become someone you’re not in order to be accepted or loved by them, so you forget about who you really are and what makes you happy.
3. You always feel drained and exhausted.
You’re always trying, the one who puts in all the effort with no compromise. As a result, you’re left feeling exhausted and burnt out. They drain your energy, which leaves you feeling empty and alone inside.
4. You avoid the issues.
You prefer to keep the peace, so you avoid discussing the underlying issues in your relationship. You make excuses for them to protect the relationship. You pretend you’re okay when you’re not, telling yourself it’s normal. You are scared of seeing the relationship for what it really is, because it hurts.
5. You struggle with trust and dishonesty.
Your intuition and that little voice in your head always tell you not to trust them, because they’ve let you down and been dishonest before. The relationship is based on secrecy, and there is no open and honest communication going on.
6. There’s a lack of communication.
There isn’t enough or any open and honest communication, or perhaps the communication is hostile, leaving you feeling like you are always the one to blame. Perhaps you feel ashamed to communicate how you feel because you are scared of being ignored or rejected.
7. You feel resentment.
You are starting to feel angry or negative toward yourself or your relationship because you can’t let go of the past and everything they’ve put you through. It’s gotten to the stage where an apology just isn’t enough. Too much has happened. As a result, intimacy has stopped and you feel uncomfortable getting close to them.